Man. Life has hit us pretty hard the past couple months. It’s made us grateful for supportive family and friends, good sponsors and the ability to forgive each other for all the little things. I lost my job in November, my last day being December 14. I started working in a temporary position on Jan 2, and it’s been great. I like the people and the work. However, it goes through April, until baby #2 is here. Then, I honestly don’t know what is next after taking some time with her. That uncertainty is enough to make me sick to my stomach and keep me up at night. It’s a test in faith, I can tell you. Some days I feel ok, other days I feel panicked. We have a contingency plan in the event I don’t get employment as quickly as we need after “maternity leave” but it isn’t ideal, and it doesn’t remove the fear as the future is unknown. And I get it, the future is always unknown. We only have right now. I am trying to embrace that and live every day as such. This will be the last time that I’m pregnant, and I’m trying to enjoy it. The work I’m doing is important but not nearly as stressful as my previous job. I dunno you guys, I am excited about our little girl on the way and I am simultaneously really scared about adding another member to our family when our financial situation is so indeterminate. Also, to maintain the standard of living we currently have, i.e. bills and living expenses, I have a certain salary I need to bring home, which limits my choices and also makes it more challenging and stressful to find a job. At this point, I’ve slowed down on applying. Now that I’m at this company I feel like I need to stay through April, have this baby, and then try to find another company to begin a new path in. I’m trying to turn this over to God every day. Sometimes I forget in the morning and it’s 3 hours later and I have to try it then. Other times my grip on it just tightens outside my control. I’m hopeful for the day when I can just trust that everything will work out, and have some serenity.
I will say that our holidays were lovely – even with this hanging over our heads, we had an excellent time with family and friends, and we haven’t lost sight of the gratitude we have for the things we currently have in our lives. Even with that, I have to give myself the grace to not be ok, and know that eventually, this will be in the past, and hopefully I can look back on it and know that I walked through it with some dignity and grace.